Thanksgiving is a time to reconnect with family, reflect on what we’re thankful for, and, most importantly, eat. But as we all know, conversations can take unexpected turns—whether it’s about sports, politics, or that one uncle who tells you a bit too much. Here’s a guide, straight from a Boy Scout’s handbook, to help you navigate those potentially tricky moments and ensure you emerge unscathed.

1. Lead with Respect

Start the conversation by acknowledging the other person’s point of view. Even if you disagree, let them express themselves without interrupting. Giving space for others to share their thoughts doesn’t mean you have to agree with them, but it demonstrates respect for their feelings. Sometimes, listening is the best way to build understanding, and you might learn something you didn’t expect.

2. Take a Deep Breath

When conversations start to get heated, it’s easy to feel your emotions rise. But remember, it’s okay to take a moment and pause. Instead of firing back, take a deep breath. This allows you to regain your composure before responding. You’re not in a race to win the argument; you’re trying to foster respect and understanding. Let the other person express themselves and, in turn, show them the same patience before expressing your opinion.

3. Step Away if Needed

If things are getting too intense and you feel your temper flaring, it might be time to step back. Excuse yourself for a minute, take a walk, or just find a quiet space to calm down. You might be right (according to you), but remember their feelings are valid too. Time apart will allow both of you to cool off and return to the conversation with clearer minds.

4. Let Others Support You

Thanksgiving isn’t just about surviving the meal – it’s about making meaningful connections. If you’re struggling with a tough conversation, seek the support of a trusted friend or family member. Having someone to help mediate or offer a neutral perspective can help de-escalate the situation. You can also call in reinforcements and vent to a close friend or family member.

5. Be Grateful

Above all, Thanksgiving is a time for gratitude. No matter how frustrating conversations might get, remember the bigger picture: the relationships you’re fostering. Be thankful for the love, support, and understanding between you and your loved ones, even when disagreements arise. At the end of the day, these angry moments are temporary, but the bonds you share are lasting.

Just like preventing forest fires, we can prevent the flames of anger from damaging relationships. If you follow these tips, you’ll not only keep your cool but also be able to give thanks to the people who matter most.

Remember, as the Boy Scouts always say: Be prepared.

Redmond “Red”, Troop 0000